Huge Family problems - living with inlaws?

There had to be some reason. Even if it doesn't make sense to you, figure out their reasons and don't do those things. If you move back in, then you and your husband should make a plan to avoid the family completely. Then they can't get mad, and you won't have fights. Spend a lot of time outside the home. Come home by curfew though. Also make a plan for if they start to get mad. For example, don't get mad back, just say 'sorry', close your mouth and walk away to your room. Follow their rules. Have your fun within the rules. Vent to each other when the family can't hear, punch a pillow, write in a diary. Work hard, get a second job, earn money, move out. If you change your mindset, you won't make yourself sick. Over your lifetime, you'll have more time away from them than with them! If you try again, tell yourself you can do it. Be positive, don't fall into negative traps. Good luck.------------------------------Ok, so a rule is to stay upstairs and work out a problem with the family. Your husband doesn't have to 'fight' to do that. You have to change how you look at it. Don't stay up and fight, stay upstairs and talk calmly and logically, even if they yell. Decide on it! You both have a lot of self power. Then avoid them as much as possible otherwise. Now this is only if you decide to move back in. If you keep saying it's impossible, then it will be impossible, and your mind is closed. Instead, try problem solving. No it won't be fun and beaufiful, but it will get you by until you are close enough to being out of debt that you can move out. You have to follow their rules to play though. They say stay upstairs, stay upstairs, they say one hour of tv, then one hour of tv, do the yardwork, don't slouch whatever, etc... Then go back to your room and ***** ***** *****!